Maroon shirt: Paix, remixed * Skirt: AA, remixed * Cardigan: UO, remixed * Mocha tights: We Love Colors, remixed * Shoes: UO, remixed * Fur stole: borrowed from Emily * Belt: thrifted, remixed
I started to write a post about how busy I am, and how it's hard to be motivated when you feel behind, and how I'm days behind in posting pictures (it's safe to assume that unless I say otherwise, the pictures I post are not from the day I post them). But then I deleted it. I don't want to write a whole bunch of posts about being stressed and overwhelmed. This is my space for stepping away from those stresses, so it shouldn't be the focus of them. I want to write instead about the things that get me through those stressful moments, the habits and routines and meals and people that make the tough days worth getting through.
I got to talk to an old friend on the phone last night. He's living in Ecuador now, and I don't get to talk to him often at all. We exchange emails occasionally, but even his internet access is sporadic, and we haven't truly chatted since February. He's randomly in the country for a week, and called me out of the blue. It was amazing how much I realized I missed him as soon as we started to talk. He and Joe were my very closest friends during my first year in Chicago, and we formed an incredibly tight friendship. He's the kind of friend that, while making fun of me and being entirely inappropriate, reaffirms for me that I am a good, capable person, with so much to offer the world and the people I know. He inspires me to be better at things, to reach for things that seem impossible, and to be okay when things go wrong.
My friendship with him has always sort of astounded me. We got very close very quickly, and have remained at that level ever since. Even not talking for eight months, we slipped right into the same friendly intimacy when we were talking last night, and it didn't feel strange at all to hang up with an "I love you". It astounds me, I think, because I'm amazed at how you find those people in life. How do you connect with people in such an real way, so quickly? What are the odds that of all the people in all the places of the world, each person still has a network of relationships that truly fit, that understand more than just what you like or dislike, but understand, more deeply, who you are.
I'm incredibly flattered that eek! has taken up Joe's daily "three good things" mantra. It's been wonderful to read her three things each day, and has consistently inspired me, and reminded me, to keep doing it myself. So today's three good things will be about Patrick, who, out of the blue, knew I needed to hear from him, and reminded me how wonderful and reassuring it is to have friends who love you, unconditionally. 1) Taco Tuesdays and Tila Tequila; 2) Encouraging me to keep writing, and not taking no for an answer; and 3) Offering up his home in Ecuador for Joe and I to visit someday (next summer?). I think that those will get me through the day just fine, no matter how stressful, busy, or windy it gets.
Title song: Peter Schilling, "Major Tom" (Patrick once made me a mix tape with this on it)
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